Are you living on auto pilot? If you feel like you are wasting your life’s potential... you are!
Most of us are programmed to fit into social norms; in business we look to the market to compete
for better sameness and when we suffer physically or emotionally, most of us look outside of
ourselves for cause or cure. Our concept of self is often inauthentic or weak.
80% of mental ill health starts under the age of 18! From a very young age having low self esteem
and low self worth isn’t uncommon. The problems lie in we then become pleasers, mould ourselves
to be who others want us to be and lose our sense of self!
At around 18 we continue to meet the world attempting to figure out life!! You might venture to
university because your parents told you to. You will probably have a few jobs! Maybe you stuck at
a job you hated but it paid a wage and you didn't have to think about it over the weekend as that’s
when you got drunk and forgot all about it again until Monday!
You may have had a few failed relationships putting up with behaviours, questioning why you did
that. Maybe you have challenging children and you don't understand why they do not listen to you.
Maybe you have been diagnosed with an illness and its a label thats stuck and you cant break the
cycle, and wouldn’t even know where to start!
Life can be filled with stress, arguments, feelings of failure or not being good enough! The
challenge is, we are programmed from a very young age by influences that we do not choose.
Most people will not challenge the status quo and live life with struggles, because its what you
have known. The good news is, theres a solution and a way to change it!
You’ve heard the saying you cant teach an old dog new tricks!! Luckily as humans we can, but as
you can imagine, change is not going to be easy! This is years of habits or behaviours you have
done repetitively over and over again. Now working on auto pilot! You probably don’t even know
consciously when this behaviour started or why!! You may even still like what you are doing, and
get short bursts of happiness! But there is more to life than short bursts of happiness.
Against popular opinion that you cant have everything, I believe you can. I am not saying you wont
have challenges! You still need to learn and grow and evolve! We should be taught to embrace
fear, attempt the impossible, as what is there actually to lose! Everything is measured on the
amount of love you feel. If you really wanted to could feel grateful for the tiniest of measures, small
gestures, people being polite, finding small change, kind people, a good meal, sunshine, warmth
on a cold day! When you strip yourself of every material thing, what is there? Just you and how you
So happiness starts and ends with the love you feel inside of you.
When you transform what you see and feel on the inside, you transform what you see on the
outside and become who you really are.
If you are struggling in any way, or know there is more inside of you and you want to move forward
but unsure where to start I would love to hear from you.